How well do you know me questions

50 questions, grouped by how much they'll cost you.

The rules are simple: one person answers about the other, then you check. Score it if you want. The questions get harder as you go — the last group is where friendships actually get tested.

Warm-up

Everyone gets these right. That's the point.

  1. What's my go-to order at our usual place?
  2. What am I always late for?
  3. Which app do I waste the most time on?
  4. What's my most-worn item of clothing?
  5. How do I take my coffee?
  6. What's my useless talent?
  7. What show have I rewatched too many times?
  8. Do I answer the phone or text back first?

The specifics

This is where the score starts moving.

  1. What was my last big purchase I regretted?
  2. Who did I last argue with that wasn't you?
  3. What's my middle name?
  4. What job did I want when I was ten?
  5. What's the last thing I cooked from scratch?
  6. Which of my family members am I most like?
  7. What's my worst habit when I'm stressed?
  8. How long does it actually take me to get ready?
  9. What do I always forget to bring?
  10. What's my order of operations when I get home?

The honest ones

Ask these only if you both want the real answer.

  1. What am I insecure about that I pretend not to be?
  2. What compliment do I never believe?
  3. What do I complain about but never change?
  4. What was I like before we met?
  5. What do I do when I'm upset with you?
  6. What's a thing I've told you I'd do and haven't?
  7. Which of my friendships am I quietly outgrowing?
  8. What would I change about how we hang out?
  9. When did you last see me actually relax?
  10. What do I need that I never ask for?

About us

Both of you answer separately, then compare. Disagreements here are the interesting part.

  1. Who texts first more often?
  2. Who would notice first if the other went quiet for a week?
  3. Which of us plans, and does the other one mind?
  4. What's the closest we've come to a real falling out?
  5. Who apologises first?
  6. What do we never talk about?
  7. Which of us needs more space, and does that bother the other one?
  8. What's a running joke only we would get?
  9. If we met today, would we still become friends?
  10. What's the thing the other one does that quietly annoys you?

The hard ones

Skip these if the friendship is already tender.

  1. Have I ever hurt you and not realised?
  2. What have you forgiven me for without telling me?
  3. Do you think I'd show up if something serious happened?
  4. Which of us puts more into this?
  5. Is there something you've wanted to say for a while?
  6. What would make you walk away?
  7. Am I a good friend to you, honestly?
  8. What do you think I get wrong about myself?
  9. Have we changed, and is it for the better?
  10. What do you want from this friendship that you're not getting?
  11. What's one thing you'd want said at my funeral?
  12. Would you tell me if you were struggling?

Or let it score itself

Reading questions out loud only works if you're both being honest about the answers. The bestie quiz asks 16 of them about your actual behaviour, gives you each a four-letter role, and then tells you what the two roles make together.

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Questions are prompts, not tests. On what actually predicts whether a friendship lasts, see American Psychological Association — Friendship.