The BFF Quiz: are you two actually best friends?
Or just two people who are around each other a lot?
Sixteen questions about how you actually behave around each other — who plans, who says the awkward thing, how much space you need. Answer them, send the link to your bestie, and see what the two of you add up to. Unlike a best friend quiz that just asks trivia about each other, this bff test scores behaviour, not memory — so you can both take the best friend test honestly and still be surprised by the result.
When you two hang out, you're usually the one who picked the place.
You'd rather show you care by doing something than by saying it.
If something your bestie did bothered you, you bring it up the same week.
You could go a month without talking and pick right back up.
You're happy to go along with whatever your bestie suggests.
You've told your bestie straight out that they matter to you.
You'd rather let a small thing slide than start something.
You two talk most days.
You're the one keeping track of the plan — times, tickets, who's bringing what.
A lot of your affection comes out as teasing.
You'll say the uncomfortable thing if it actually needs saying.
You know what your bestie did last weekend.
If nobody decides where to eat, you'll wait it out rather than just call it.
You send the "thinking of you" message without overthinking it.
After an argument your first instinct is to smooth things over.
You need real alone time, even from people you love.
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What the 16 questions measure
Every question loads one of four axes. Your answers put you on one side of each, which gives you a four-letter role — one of 16.
- Lead vs Ease
- Who picks the place, who keeps the plan alive, who just goes along with it.
- Open vs Subtle
- Whether care comes out as words, or as lifts to the airport and relentless teasing.
- Clear vs Patch
- What you do when something's wrong — say it this week, or smooth it over and wait.
- Tight vs Roomy
- How much contact you need before it feels like drifting, and how much before it feels like too much.
All 16 Bestie roles
- LOCT The Ringleader Nothing happens until you make it happen.
- LOCR The Straight Shooter You'll tell them the truth, then disappear for three weeks.
- LOPT The Group Mom You remember everyone's order and everyone's birthday.
- LOPR The Cruise Director Big plans, big warmth, and then you need a week off.
- LSCT The Fixer You don't say "I love you," you just solve the problem.
- LSCR The Quiet Captain Few words, clear ones, then space.
- LSPT The Provider Always there, never says it, never fights about it.
- LSPR The Lighthouse Far away, but you always know where you are with them.
- EOCT The Open Book You have no filter and no secrets, and you're always here.
- EOCR The Honest Drifter Says everything, promises nothing.
- EOPT The Golden Retriever Down for anything, in love with everyone, allergic to conflict.
- EOPR The Sunshine Guest Shows up glowing, leaves before the tension does.
- ESCT The Deadpan Loyalist Will roast you daily, will also drive four hours at 3am.
- ESCR The Blunt Ghost Tells you the truth, then vanishes for two months.
- ESPT The Shadow Always there, says nothing, forgives everything.
- ESPR The Cat Appears on your terms, leaves without explanation, still yours.
Then send it to your bestie
Once you both have a role, the two codes combine into one of 16 relationship types — that's the part worth arguing about.
Just want the questions?
The question lists give you the same material to read out loud, with nothing to score.
Not a clinical instrument. For the research on why friendships matter, see American Psychological Association — Friendship.