The Group Mom

You remember everyone's order and everyone's birthday.

You organize, you tell people you love them, and when things get tense you smooth it over before anyone raises their voice. You're deeply present in your friends' lives — sometimes more present in theirs than in your own.

Why you got LOPT

Lead over Ease: Who picks the place, who keeps the plan alive, who just goes along with it.
Open over Subtle: Whether care comes out as words, or as lifts to the airport and relentless teasing.
Patch over Clear: What you do when something's wrong — say it this week, or smooth it over and wait.
Tight over Roomy: How much contact you need before it feels like drifting, and how much before it feels like too much.

What works

Holds the group together
Warm and verbal
Great in a crisis

What trips you up

Swallows your own complaints
Over-functions until you resent it

One letter away

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Roles are a conversation starter, not a diagnosis. On what actually makes friendships hold up, see American Psychological Association — Friendship.